Living in The Present to Create the Life You Desire

Living in the Present requires letting go of two things.

Letting go of both your past and your future will allow you to create a joyous present existence, so you can create the life you desire.

If you wish to create the life you desire, it is imperative you live in the present moment. Living in the present moment, the NOW requires letting go of two things.

One is to let go of the past that keeps you tethered via your unreleased emotions to those people, places, things and or experiences you no longer have any control over. The other is to let go of the future in terms of fearing the outcome.  Letting go of both your past and your future will allow you to create a joyous present existence, as well as the future you desire!

If your now consists of being focused on the painful past or fearful of the unknown future you are all twisted up. Your inner wiring is crossed, as your thoughts are turned and pulled in different directions, rather than being fully engaged in the now where you can be aware of what you are both consciously and unconsciously thinking and feeling.

What you are thinking and the emotions those thoughts generate is the energy you are projecting that will or will not manifest what you truly desire to experience.

You can straighten it all out by being present with yourself and accepting there is no way to change what has been despite how much thought and emotional energy you give it and also by realizing your future is dependent on what you do in this moment.

It is all nothing more than a choice, you can choose to live by default, incorrectly believing you are a victim of circumstances; where you recreate the same unending, unchanging cycle over and over again and where your future will end up resembling your past or you can choose to make a difference right now by realizing you have the  the power to affect change.

You do have the power and ability, as well as the authority, to shift your focus into the present moment by changing your understanding of what took place in the past. This in turn will then change your attitude towards your future.

Many of you have dismissed your past by deceiving your self with flippant statements that you are not bothered by and are done with your past, yet if your life is not reflecting back your manifested heart and soul desires; than your past is obviously not done with you.

Each of us has experienced some past negative situation involving love, money, health, and choices of where to live, employment and others.  We spend far too much time in the process of revisiting these experiences in our attempts to try to figure it all out.

We waste our precious time and energy with thoughts of' why it happened and what we might have done to change it, as well as what we might have done or not done that would have resulted in a different outcome. When you are dragged back by your past and or pulled into your future you are cross-wired. Your focus is twisted and/or split out in multiple directions with no connection to your present moment where your energy needs to be focused to be most effective in intentionally creating what you desire.

I am not suggesting you involve yourself in one mentally based process after another that has failed to affect a full healing. What I am suggesting is you take time to go within yourself to be present with the old negative emotions still attached to the incorrect adverse belief of what was done to you. Once you free these less than desirable feelings you will also realize the higher truth of what you created in the past was all for the highest good of you and all others.

If you desire to create a change, than it is vitally important to straighten out the inner wiring by plugging it in to what you are thinking, feeling and doing in the present moment, rather than being unconsciously consumed with your head turned back with what was or being paralyzed to move forward into your future because you are terrified of more of the same.

When your present moment is disconnected because your wires are crossed with you’re past or future and you have loose emotional wires striking out in all directions, you are similar to a live wire that has been struck by lighting. The wire is angrily bouncing all over the place looking for where it properly belongs and for someone to fix it, as it is doing so it threatens harm to self', as well as to all others in its immediate vicinity.

Your friends and/or family begin to pull away from you and you end up wondering why you are alone and feel so desperately abandoned.

Anyone in his or her right mind knows better than to get close to a randomly bouncing live wire. You are charged negatively because you are wired into dark thoughts and as a result you are feeling pain. 

This is dangerous for your own well being, as well as for all others. You create hurtful situations and then you feel bad and/or sad and those emotions rapidly escalate into feelings of shame and believing you are guilty. These incorrect beliefs only result in adding insult to injury by creating more self-punishing experiences onto your already heavily burdened shoulders.

Another unhealthy cross-wired behavior is whining, crying and complaining all the time to everyone and anyone you think will listen. This does not change the situation either, as you go from one person to another repeating your sad or angry story; you simply sound like a broken record or a stuck tape or a scratched disc (depending on what generation you are part of).

You become addicted to the pain because even though you may realize repeating your sad tale will not change the outcome of the story, it will at least get the victim of you some attention it perceives it is lacking. Repeating the tale does nothing more than keeping the story repeating itself, continually opening up the opportunity for the victim to be tortured or terrorized over and over because you choose to participate in the negative thoughts and terrible feelings the story brings up.

Once again you will probably find yourself alone and believing you are abandoned and even betrayed because you are not getting the sympathy you are seeking. 

All people are trying to heal in terms of healing their mental and emotional wounds so they can be happy and create a fulfilled life.  They have their own stories and are bored with hearing yours over and over again. They are either engaged in their own story telling and/or  lack the energy to deal with yours.  They may also simply think they are inadequate and lack the appropriate tools in being able to help you.

This of course can lead to even more frustration on your part as you incorrectly believe you have been betrayed because no one has the desire to sit around to bear witness to your victim.  You will then fuel the fire of the live angry wire and the whole vicious cycle begins anew.

Instead of looking outwardly for your attention, seeking someone or something else to heal your thoughts and feelings, you can choose to focus on yourself in the very moment you sense the angry, sad or any other emotions that are less than desirable and choose instead to start the process of forgiveness. You and only you have the power to forgive yourself or whom ever else you perceive has done you wrong.

Forgiveness is a very powerful tool that enables you to let go of the past and move ahead calmly in each moment. If you are stuck in non-forgiveness for what ever it is you perceive someone or something has done to you, you will continue to live in that old moment of time. You are stuck in your past, because that is where your focus is. You are continually consumed with thoughts of what they or what you could have done, what they/you did, as well as what they/you did not do to affect a different outcome.

These relentless self doubting thoughts trigger the emotional body in an unhealthy way; meaning you have negative feelings associated with the thoughts. You feel sad, depressed and or angry, resentful or enraged. I could go on defining the feelings, but it is more important only to know in this moment; whether you feel good or you feel bad. It really boils down to just that. If you do not feel good about a situation in the past then it is time to forgive.

Your ego has a need to be justified in its victimization and will definitely challenge your desire to forgive, as it has been doing in other moments when you had the slightest inkling that you just might want to let it all go; whatever it is.

Your ego is engaged in ongoing manipulation demanding to win, with a justifiable argument of how you were right and they were wrong or vice versa. You continue to flip back and forth getting all twisted up in the wiring and never quite able to reach a reasonable resolve.

What you need to consider is this; “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy. Which is more important?
 
I say be happy, because being right may satiate an insatiable ego for a moments time, but being right will never bring about an open loving heart and long lasting peace of mind. Being right over being happy simply keeps your wiring entangled and the vicious cycle spinning your life out of control.
 
Your perceived "Win" is only temporarily enjoyed; as sooner or later debilitating negative thoughts will rise again; causing you to revisit the whole situation over and over with the tormenting  incorrect beliefs that you could have or someone else should have done something else to make it different. Then your self-doubting thoughts twist in multiple directions, crossing the wires and your emotions kick in resulting in feeling bad again.

You then try to hide your emotions or act them act rather than feel them out. We all suppress our emotions because we have suffered from expressing them in the past.

If you were fearfully conditioned as a child to withhold your anger, especially towards mommy and daddy, then you will resort to that old behavior even as an adult.

There are many who also suffered terribly from expressing their joy. They weren't permitted to be happy. Either way, the painful memory of punishment that is encoded within your cellular structure will surface for you each time you begin to feel and you will resort to stuffing it back in where it continues to be a catalyst to create more drama and induce greater pain.

The past is but a memory
The future is but a dream yet unrealized
The Now is the Gift...that is why it is called the Present.

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Being free from the tethering pain of the past, as well as liberated from the fear of the future; empowers you to make the most of each and every moment. You can chose to begin each day excited about the new adventure about to unfold. You will be filled with gratitude for what is, rather than regret for what was or fear about what will be.

Upon opening your eyes, you will scan the room intentionally focusing on the many things already in your life you are thankful for.

Imagine starting your day with gratitude for being alive. For being thankful for having another day where exciting fun filled adventure will unfold right before your awestruck eyes and where magic and miracles are occurring in every moment.

Imagine expanding beyond to the things outside of yourself that you have already created. Thanking yourself for the warm, soft bed that provides a safe, comfortable place for you to sleep soundly. Thanking yourself for your family, your home and other things within your immediate view. Or even simply being grateful for the breathe that is still pulsing in your body.

Imagine your day beginning like this, as opposed to how it has begun for far too long. Awakening to and focusing on gratitude is far better than waking up with chronic pain, due to stress created by fear; where you dread even getting out of bed, not to mention what fearfully lies ahead for the rest of your day.

Remember how unpleasant it feels to not have what you desire all the time, the lack of a good, honest, healthy, respectful, loving relationship…the lack of money to not only pay your bills, but to do the things that are fun and adventurous, not to mention to buy the things that you like and or love for yourself and others.

Being present in the moment will allow you to feel your feelings and empower you to shift them immediately, in any given moment, if they are less than feeling good. You can do this upon awakening when you start your day and you can continue to be present throughout your day.

You can begin your day with thoughts that inspire and encourage you to continue to get up with enthusiasm and excitement so you can move about in your brand new day in a healthy strong body, that has nothing to do with the past or the future. 

Imagine being engaged in happy thoughts and joyous feelings in the moment and throughout your entire day where you continually find one thing after another to be grateful for and excited about.

Imagine you are the master, the empowered authority of your life where you are a conscious co-creator having the absolute and direct influence in every experience that takes place.

This is not only possible but it is inevitable when you choose to be mentally, emotionally and physically present. When you choose the now, your creative thought process is enhanced and the possibilities of manifesting the life you desire are endless!

This is gift of the moment and how to live in joy of the present!

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